The biggest challenge in organizing psychosocial support – is to focus on the work of man with himself. We have said that quite often there is projection of the crisis on the environment, and in this case the person comes for consultation with the request, the real situation is woefully inadequate. For example, he may ask to sort out his family problems, relationship with the head, etc. Therefore, the first thing to do – is to come to a discussion of their own difficulties, that is, to help the person to recognize the presence of his most emotional problems. You can use this technique proposed N. ORESHKIN.
The consultant tells the story of a client, which is presented on a version for both women and men, and asks him to reply that it seemed interesting or relatives.

“In a kingdom, some state there lived a woman. She lived happily all it was good. When suddenly … Once …
All were up in arms against her fate was no longer in her favor. She suddenly realized I had lost myself. All terribly tired, it seemed strange. The future began to seem gray, all in gray thick fog, because there are no prospects and is not visible. Had difficulty finding work and at work. Frequent changes of mood: it wants to swear, then cry. You laugh for some reason rarely. Little is happy in his life, but did not want to. Sometimes it seems that there is almost no effort and you do not know where to get them. Afraid not catch something in life, the year of leave. I want to change everything, but you do not know how. But at the same time and are afraid of changes: better that way, if only it was not worse. Sometimes I want to crawl under the covers with his head and did not see or hear. Already beginning to feel the breath of old age, the mirror look less like: wrinkles, gray hair. Feel decrease of vitality. ”

“In a kingdom, some state there lived a man. He lived happily, everything about him was good. When suddenly … Once …
All were up in arms against him, fate has ceased to be favorable to him. He suddenly realized that he had lost himself. All terribly tired, it seemed strange. The future began to seem gray, all in gray thick fog, because there are no prospects and is not visible. All life is reduced only to the obtaining of money and survival. Had difficulty finding work and at work. Frequent changes of mood all annoying. You laugh for some reason, is rare. Little is happy in his life, but did not want to. Even women are no longer interested. Sometimes it seems that there is almost no effort and you do not know where to get them. Afraid not catch something in life, the year of leave. I want to change everything, but you do not know how. But at the same time and are afraid of changes: better that way, if only it was not worse. Had already begun to feel the breath of old age: wrinkles, gray hair. Feel decrease of vitality. ”

Typically, after the presentation of the stories people tell about what it is close to them. It is sometimes said that this story is deducted directly from them. And then with a discussion of the history of the story begins the client has of himself. As you can see, psychological support is carried out in accordance with the logic described earlier with respect to the crisis in youth – the first step is to recognize the fact of accession by the man himself in a difficult situation. Accordingly, the next step may be the assignment of this situation name – the “mid-life crisis.” For this consultant can tell the person about the specifics and the typical manifestations of this crisis, summarizing and the adjustment of its future path. And most importantly, the need to change the external position on the inside: the transition from the conquest of the outer world to conquer himself, the search for the path to the outside world to seek ways to himself. Naturally, this story should be accompanied by specific examples of people who not only overcame the crisis and reached a new level of development. Sometimes a person is enough to know what is happening to them is normal and, in fact, natural. And further internal work he can undertake on its own. As an example, the story of one of our students who received a second degree. After the lecture, the crisis of “mid-life” in the institute she shared her knowledge with her husband. And here’s her story.